Cutlery Set: Choose the set they will enjoy laying the table with

How many people does the set really serve?

Cutlery is a useful gift when you know the recipient would welcome a new set. Think about their normal meals, occasional guests and what fits in the cutlery drawer before choosing the largest box.

Sets do not all contain the same mix. Read the number of each utensil, not only the total piece count. A 16-piece set may provide four knives, four forks, four larger spoons and four teaspoons. Another package may count extra steak knives or serving pieces towards a much bigger number.

• Establish how many complete settings the recipient needs.

• Read the actual knife, fork and spoon sizes and the quantity of each.

• Look for serving pieces or a tray in the contents list rather than assuming the photograph includes them.

A small household may enjoy a modest complete set more than a bulky collection with pieces they rarely use.

Choose for the hand as well as the table

A curved handle, square edge, heavy piece or long spoon can change how comfortable cutlery feels. Use the shape and weight of utensils they already like as a starting point. An ornate design is a matter of taste, rather than an automatic improvement.

Read the stated steel or other material and any surface finish. Gold-coloured and silver-coloured descriptions do not establish precious-metal content. Follow the washing and drying directions for the exact set, especially where handles are coated or made from another material.

What silverware means for five years

Silverware is a modern fifth wedding-anniversary gift type: here it means dining cutlery. A stainless-steel set can suit that tradition without being silver, and it should not be treated as a silver-material gift for a 25th anniversary.

Let the recipient's preferences lead. A useful set for meals together can acknowledge the occasion quietly; it is worth asking before replacing a familiar set or giving household utensils to someone who would prefer a personal gift.

One person's name or a whole table?

Personalised utensils are often sold as a single place setting, even when the description calls them a set. Count the knives, forks and spoons and read their dimensions. A named travel set or child's set is a different choice from a family table service.

Choose a handle size and the exact product's stated age suitability where relevant. Confirm which pieces receive the engraving and whether different names can be used. Read the finish and washing instructions; an engraved name or a silver-coloured surface does not establish precious-metal content.